Tuesday, January 22, 2008


It is an actuality that virginity is a conception that held momentum substance when it came to women only, more particularly in middle-of-the-road cultures like the Philippines. This matter has insignificant factor in men. The common connotation of a virgin is someone who has not had sex with a member of the opposite sex yet. This definition is dull and predetermined or either has a medical and physical enlightenment. Then . . . a woman with unbroken hymen was considered to be a virgin … is that the real definition? What if one distended and ripped her hymen due to accident or horseback riding? Would she be clearly and evidently considered no longer a virgin? The condition of woman’s hymen is the way by which one can substantiates that she had not sex with man (unless she lost it for some other reasons). Again, this barometer is not relevant to men. Pretending the penis is not a part of the sex tool, let say lesbian and woman having sexual relationship for so many years are they still virgins?

Now if you ask me. . . is VIRGINITY IMPORTANT? Yes! If you were born in 1880! I agree that to reject and detest somebody because she is not a virgin anymore is one dimensional. Virginity is not the barometer that gauges the wholeness of a woman. Voltaire said: “It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge.”
Virginity is a matter of the past . . . Some lost it for bliss, or accidents; others were molested and most gave it for love. If you lost it for whatever reasons do not regret, it is not the end of the world but rather learn the lessons and face the emotional implications for personal growth and maturity. I advise people (men and women) to stay virgin until they are married. Sex is pleasurable and gratifying. Men see it as attestation of manhood and the claiming of power and control but that should not be the reasons to have it. If men can give love for sex would it be possible to reject or ignore sex for love? In women, losing it seemed like an indisputable lost of power and freedom. If women can say YES to give sex for love in exchange for their virginity, would it be right for them to say NO?. At one time or another, most of us were virgins. At the right time, for the right one we can let our virginity go. I believe that sex is a Divine gift from God. Can you just imagine if Adam and Eve opted to stay virgins? Would there be humanity?

If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins.
Exodus 22:16-17


Flor Acuvera said...

hi jessie boy,just wanna tell you that I enjoyed browsing your blog. You have a great blog and I enjoyed reading the articles and stories and I learned a lot too.I'm so happy to see Melanie Mabini and Ana Marie Aguilar bigla ko tuloy silang na miss. Hay, High School life, talagang napakasaya! Kilala pa kaya nila ako? I hope so. You're a great writer boy, keep it up! I am looking forward for more articles to read. You have a great family too. Nakakatuwa parang kailang lang. Hey, thanks for remembring me too ha, buti naman di mo pa ako nakakalimutan. You have a great anamnesis.
God bless you and your family.

jessie said...

Flor thanks for reading my articles! Sorry I was not able to attend the reunion. See you next time kailan ba uli?