Now if you ask me. . . is VIRGINITY IMPORTANT? Yes! If you were born in 1880! I agree that to reject and detest somebody because she is not a virgin anymore is one dimensional. Virginity is not the barometer that gauges the wholeness of a woman. Voltaire said: “It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge.”
Virginity is a matter of the past . . . Some lost it for bliss, or accidents; others were molested and most gave it for love. If you lost it for whatever reasons do not regret, it is not the end of the world but rather learn the lessons and face the emotional implications for personal growth and maturity. I advise people (men and women) to stay virgin until they are married. Sex is pleasurable and gratifying. Men see it as attestation of manhood and the claiming of power and control but that should not be the reasons to have it. If men can give love for sex would it be possible to reject or ignore sex for love? In women, losing it seemed like an indisputable lost of power and freedom. If women can say YES to give sex for love in exchange for their virginity, would it be right for them to say NO?. At one time or another, most of us were virgins. At the right time, for the right one we can let our virginity go. I believe that sex is a Divine gift from God. Can you just imagine if Adam and Eve opted to stay virgins? Would there be humanity?
If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins.